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小时候，
看名人语录或者生平传记，
就像 window shopping，只看不买，
所以觉得这个好，那个也不错；
懂事后，
再听人谈过去、谈感想、品读人生百味，
那感觉少了许多浮华，多了不少朴实，
每到妙处，就如穿上一件熨贴的衣裳，
体贴、
关怀、
触手可及。
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从来都是只听音乐不问隐私的人，偶尔也会被艺人的真实故事吸引，看下去；像是穿越一段时光隧道，别人的；奇异间目睹时间的车轮隆隆碾过，一去不返，留下世界上唯一可以被称作永恒的东西——历史。
“人这一辈子，是不是就是一颗等待碾过的尘埃，随着车轮走一遭，然后落到另一处，重又覆为尘埃？”我老是被不着边际的问题困扰。到底什么是永远？
在爱情里，人们都有这样的愿望想把美好的感觉珍藏起来，可惜不管怎样尝试，除非时光停留，没有人能确切回忆起过去每一分钟发生的事情，或是完全复制曾经某一刹那间的感觉。留在我们记忆里的可能只剩下隐约的情景，人像，模糊的声音，外加一些零散的情节罢了……而且时间越久，记忆的清晰程度就越低。一个让人很遗憾的事实是，人的记忆远比一张照片容易发黄。
常听人说：我这辈子永远不会忘记你，之类的话。其实谁又知道呢，自以为不会忘记的人，也许50年过后，当初信誓旦旦，如今老得神志不清的时候。别说曾经的情人，可能连六亲都不认得了。这样说似乎有点残酷。其实人们的愿望总是好的，只是现实远不如想象的浪漫而已。
既然记忆容易发黄，承诺难以兑现，现实远不如想象中浪漫，那么我们还指望什么？
当然是指望自己咯！
记忆不能保留，那么就不断制造新鲜的回忆，就像每个星期都要去买面包牛奶一样；
承诺无法兑现，那么就不将它等同于未来。而只看作当时的愿望而已。记住，承诺改变不了未来。但是自己可以。
至于浪不浪漫，那是因人而异的事，没有统一的标准。对我来说，期待与他在不同的城市相遇本身就已经很浪漫了……
一首Gwen的新歌：
Gwen S. - Early Winter
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室友Liz溜狗回家，问我看到她妈妈了吗？
我说，没有啊，我刚回来。Hi, Molly! 我跟狗打招呼。
Liz说，她应该在回来的路上了...哦，她今天见了Brad了！她很喜欢他！
Brad是她最近两周dating的男生。
哦？我很是惊讶，这么快就见父母？
她马上补充，我指的是这只狗。
哦！我舒了口气，不过还是有点怪怪。
追问以后才知道，原来美国人约会的时候，很重视自己宠物对他们约会对象的“第一印象”，听上去有点搞笑，不过他们认为动物的直觉很灵敏，能嗅出人的好坏。所以从它们的反应里能得到很多启示。比如molly喜欢她的男友就是个好兆头。
以前觉得美国人把狗当作自己的家庭成员只是说说好听而已，没想到他们so serious... 嗯，希望Molly这次是对的啦。:)
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时间过得飞快，再有4个月，我就足足在美国待满两年了。想想自己的经历，见闻，长进，变化，有太多值得回忆和总结的地方。两年来，我很幸运地一直不断得到GG的指点和帮助，以致于少了一些摸爬滚打少走很多弯路，而又多了许多宝贵经验，长了不少见识，在生活,学习,为人,处事各方面都不断有更让自己满意的表现。也许我不能像GG一样，坐在米兰的办公室里考虑怎么给手下的经理们加薪才能最大程度地激励工作热情，但是最起码，我还是可以站在在讲台上口沫横飞，激励一下下一代改变自己命运的热情吧？
其实说起来也特别有意思，我从小学接受教育开始到大学毕业压根儿就没想过做教授。All I want to do is just to get out of that hell. 留在学校多没意思！最初的想法也不是完全没道理的，记得从第一次听到上课，起立，跟全班齐喊老师好的那一刻起，我就觉得从此失去了自由。每天上午8点升旗10点做操12点放学下午1点唱歌3点眼保健操5点打扫教室或者清洁校内某个包干区然后回家做功课睡觉，第二天周而复始重复昨天的故事。这样的生活让我觉得自己根本不是人，就算是人，也顶多是个机器人。我痛恨像奴隶一样活着。当然，我没有选择，也没傻到作出什么极端叛逆的事来，比如憎恨老师之类，因为我知道他们也是奴隶，只是他们自愿选择做了奴隶而我们未成年，于是被迫做了奴隶。这也是为什么我不愿意毕业了再做奴隶的缘故，well, if I have choices。有时候我问，难道美国孩子不打扫教室不劳动吗？不是，只是他们被告知自己是以一名义工，志愿者，or even missionary（翻译成使者不知妥不妥）的身分去的；而我们，当然没有被告知是以奴隶的名义去的，我们只接受命令，命令只允许服从，我们连名字都废了，在学校，每个人都叫号码，比如我就曾经是33号，52号，和6号。. 有时候人多了，老师干脆说：今天第8小组扫厕所！我们听了二话不敢说，扛着竹扫把。争先恐后地就飞奔过去了。
假如上述文字无意中伤到同胞民族感情，请多包涵，我所讲的不过只是一点个人的亲身经历而已。
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好久没更新词汇了，来一个和夏天穿衣有关的吧。
我们女生总希望穿的既性感又不至于太暴露。那么，太暴露用英文怎么说呢？通常只要讲: It's too revealing.就行了。:)
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Bad days happen to the best of us. Those are the days when you just wake up in a really bad mood, when something (or nothing) has made you angry, sad, frustrated, disappointed, or whatever. You still have to get up and go to work, but before you even get there, you’re already seething inside. You try to do your job, but somehow all the angry, dissatisfied clients have conspired to call you and complain on the same day - though you have no idea how they coordinated that little feat. Everything your co-workers say to you sounds incredibly stupid. Everyone seems to be out to annoy you. Not much fun, huh? Luckily, you can do something about it.
Steps
- Accept your bad mood. Being in a bad mood is not that bad! Being in a bad mood while trying to force yourself to cheer up is much, much worse. Fighting a bad mood only prolongs it, so if you’re mad, be mad. If you’re sad, be sad. This does not give you license to be rude and unpleasant to innocent bystanders, it just means that you need to recognize and accept your bad mood in order to be able to do something about it.
- Tell others. You can try to keep your bad mood a secret, and put on your happy mask. Your co-workers will notice, and they will wonder what they have done to tick you off. The best thing to do is to tell the people you work closely with that you are not having a good day. Simply tell them, "Listen, I’m in a really sour mood today. I’m not sure why, but it’s nothing you've done. If I do bite your head off, I'm apologizing in advance."
- Look inside first. The truly successful people are not necessarily the smartest ones, but the ones with the best emotional skills, that rely on being able to recognize and to deal with one's own emotions. We tend to think that a bad mood is always caused by something or someone else (like trying to deal with a difficult boss). A bad mood can't necessarily be connected to an obvious, external factor. Perhaps you just slept poorly, are coming down with the flu, or are just having a bad day. Do not try to justify a bad mood. Instead, try to look inside yourself first, in order to try to ascertain a possible precursor to your emotional state.
- Remember the good stuff. When you’re in a foul mood, everything is bad. But the good things you appreciated yesterday, when you weren’t as annoyed, are probably still there - you’re just not seeing them. Spend a few moments thinking of at least one or two things that aren’t all bad (something you look forward to, a person you like at work, something nice that happened recently) and be thankful for that.
- Let it pass.. You’ve been in a bad mood before. It passed. So will this one. It’s no big deal. If you can't shake the mood, simply wait it out....
- Take some quiet time. To prevent yourself from doing or saying something that you might regret later, it may be a good idea to withdraw a little if you can. Take a little walk during your lunch break. Sit and work someplace quiet. Take a long bathroom break. Consider going home early, or taking the day off.
- Start your day over. You don't have to wait until tomorrow to start your day over. Do it now. Leave your desk, work place, where ever you happen to be - leave - decide to start over, as if you went to bed and slept on it. Now go back to work with a fresh attitude. This really works.
- Leverage Your Next Good Mood. Once the bad mood does wear off, and you start feeling good, try to figure out what generated this change for you: was it a thought? a song? a friend? an event? When the next "red zone" comes, you will have developed an array of personalized positives to be used to pull yourself out.
Tips
- If you find yourself having one bad day after another, you may need to do something more. Your job might be bringing you down; you may be in danger of suffering from stress. You may even be dealing with depression. If you think this may be happening, do something, and talk to someone.
- As a preventative measure, do something so that a day starts well. Get a coffee, or some juice, and sit with a friend for 15 minutes. Or, if possible, start the day with a nice walk outside, or some sort of physical workout. A good start to a day may help you to glide more easily over any bumps that come up later.
- Get physical! Go to the bathroom and jump up and down (when no one else can hear), breathe very deeply, take a quick walk at lunch time (or to the gym for the kickboxing class). Get that workout. Kickstarting endorphins is a natural way to a better mood.
- Make sure that you are not living on sugar/candy bars. Quickly roller-coastering blood sugar levels can be unpleasant.
- There are some who, whether they admit it, or realize it, or not, enjoy being in a bad mood, and will resist all efforts to be cheered. If this is the case, there is not much that can be done, until you admit it to yourself.
- Find a great song, and let it take your mind off of your present state.
- Laughter is priceless. Find a funny video, e-mail five friends, asking for their best joke, watch little kids play (and watch them laugh!)
- Sometimes, you have to "fake it 'til you make it." Saying, "This is a TERRIFIC day" will sometimes help you to, at least, see the possibility that it could be. THINK POSITIVE THOUGHTS!
- Just smile. Yeah, you may not feel like smiling, but just forcing yourself to smile may send a signal to your brain that things aren't so bad. You may be surprised to feel your mood lighten a bit, in as little as 10 minutes (or less)!
Warnings
- Don't make huge decisions when you're in a bad mood - financial ones, emotional ones, etc. Let the negative state pass, before you choose poorly.
- Watch out for blaming other people for things that you, in fact, may be guilty of. If someone's loud telephone conversation annoys you completely, check out your own conversations before telling that other person.
- This is not the day to "finally" let someone know what you think about him/her. This is the day to write those things down, and to get them out, but not to try to act on them, until your mood brightens.
- Bad mood days can be like a downward spiral. Resolve within yourself that tomorrow will be better, and do whatever it takes to make it so.
- If there seems to be a long string of bad days at work, and depression is a part of your life, check to make sure that medications are still working properly.
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Euphemism describes a polite, agreeable, or inoffensive word or expression that is used in place of one that is harsh, rude, or offensive. Also, pleasant or inoffensive language used to soften or mask upsetting truths (e.g., to pass on instead of to die). All of us use euphemisms. Because they are so much a part of us, it can be difficult to get through an entire day without using them. Many add a note of humor. Some are simply ridiculous. As writers, we must be careful when using euphemisms for they can get in the way of effective communication. They often distort or conceal.
Euphemisms can be positive or negative. Positive euphemisms include imposing job titles adopted to bolster one's self-image or impress one's friends and acquaintances. Examples of these include counsel in place of lawyer, health care professional for nurse or doctor, chief executive officer instead of president or chairman of the board, and territory manager instead of salesman.
Negative euphemisms deflate and diminish. They replace language that people prefer to avoid using. Examples include harvesting in place of killing, collateral damage instead of civilian casualties or deaths, relationship for sexual relationship, and intestinal fortitude in place of guts.
Many of our euphemisms arose during a period when it was considered offensive to mention body parts or subjects that related to sex, body wastes, or other topics that could conjure up unpleasant or unsettling images. Thus, "private" meaning "private parts" eliminated the need to use the correct name for male or female genitals. Similarly, other terms evolved to mask a broad range of matters directly or indirectly relating to sexual intercourse.
Today's armed forces are notable for their use of language that is intended to depersonalize and soften descriptions of matters or activities related to war and killing. By avoiding words that more accurately convey the real nature of plans or events, the military attempts to avoid triggering unpleasant mental images in the minds of the public and risking a loss of public support.
The enthusiastic adoption in recent years of what is euphemistically termed political correctness has been responsible for creating many euphemisms. Similarly, many occupational fields, such as social work, nursing, and medicine, have spawned new terms that effectively mask or change the meaning of those that they replace. Here is a selection of commonly used euphemisms.
- Administrative Assistant - an important sounding name for secretary
- take under advisement - a pompous term for consider
- air support - a more pleasant sounding term for bombing and strafing
- altogether - naked
- expecting - pregnant. The term replaces the connection to impregnate with expect.
- antipersonnel weapon - any weapon designed to kill people.
- appropriate - seize, steal A term that removes any guilt or disgrace for wrongdoing.
- athletic supporter - jock strap. The neutral term removes any imagery conjured up by jock strap or locker room.
- author - writer
- body count - dead body count. An inoffensive term for the number of deaths suffered
- break off hostilities (or contact from the enemy) - retreat The euphemism removes any shame or disgrace.
- bust - breasts
- buttocks - ass
- buxom - big-breasted
- call girl - a whore who makes customer appointments by telephone
- capital punishment - an impersonal term for execution
- carnal knowledge - sexual intercourse
- casualty - victim
- come - to achieve sexual orgasm
- comfort station - public toilet
- confidential source - an informer
- consultant - an advisor
- correctional facility - prison
- covert operation - burglary, assassination, or any illegal operation carried out surreptitiously
- custodian - janitor
- deep six - to destroy evidence
- deliver ordnance - drop bombs (on) or fire missiles (at)
- dentures - false teeth
- derriere - ass, rear end (French word for behind)
- detainee - a term that differs in meaning from what it replaces, namely prisoner
- disadvantaged - poor. This politically correct term removes any need for personal responsibility for finding oneself in that state.
- dispatch - kill
- downward adjustment - corporate doubletalk for a reduction
- droppings - animal dung
- Dutch treat - hardly a treat as it means that each pays his or her share
- effluent - sewage
- erratum - a term for error. It is used by those who find it difficult to admit that their work contains errors.
- erroneous report - doubletalk for a lie
- euthanize - kill (a person who is sick, senile, etc.)
- expire - to die
- extramarital - adulterous
- fabrication - a lie
- family jewels - testicles
- family way (in a) - pregnant
- flight attendant - a politically correct for what was formerly stewardess
- foundation garment - a girdle or corset
- free world - All friends of the United States
- friendly fire - a military term to denote an attack on oneself or one's forces by one's own forces or allies
- gay - a word that has been hijacked to mean homosexual
- golden years - old age
- halitosis - bad breath
- handyman's special - a word in real estate for a house that is in great need of repair
- harvest - kill, a word used in the context of killing seals, whales, or other mammals. It minimizes ages and any sense of guilt
- head - a yachting or boating term for toilet
- homemaker - housewife
- homicide - murder
- hooker - prostitute
- hung - an adjective used to describe a male who has large genitals
- Imbibe - to drink (alcohol)
- indisposed - sick
- inoperative - false. A statement that is inoperative is a lie.
- journalist - a newspaper or magazine reporter
- liberate - often used with a straight face for conquer
- lingerie - women's underwear
- little boys' room - toilet
- loss - death. A term used in reference to the death of someone who was close
- love child - bastard
- make love - engage in sexual intercourse
- master - an over-the-hill athlete. In swimming, this refers to swimmers engaging in programs designed for those of age twenty-fiveor greater.
- meaningful dialogue - conversation
- member - penis
- mixed breed - mongrel
- mobile home - trailer
- molest - to assault sexually
- monument - tombstone or other grave marker
- mutilated - castrated
- night soil - human excrement
- not doing well - dying
- nurse - to suckle
- open marriage - open adultery. A term that puts monogamists on the defensive
- optional swimsuit area - nude beach
- outhouse - outdoor toilet
- outplacement - finding a job for the employee for the fired employee
- over flight - an illegal flight into the airspace of another country
- paramour - an illicit lover
- partner - sexual partner. One who lives with another as unmarried spouse
- pass away - to die
- pass water - to urinate
- period - menstrual period
- plausible denial - official lying
- police action - a war not sanctioned by Congress
- pre-emptive strike - a surprise (sneak) attack
- prevaricate - to lie
- previously owned - second hand, used.
- private parts - the male or female genitals
- privy - outdoor toilet
- pro-choice - pro-abortion
- prosthesis - an artificial hand, leg, or other human part
- public relations - activities designed to elicit a favorable public attitude towards a corporation, institution, product, or service
- put down/put to sleep - to kill (an animal)
- reconnaissance in force - search and destroy
- remains - a dead body
- reverse engineering - corporate doubletalk for copy
- rubber - condom
- sacrifice - to kill in the name of science or religion, etc. (e.g., to sacrifice laboratory animals)
- sanitize - to destroy evidence
- secure facility - an escape-proof jail or prison
- see a man about a dog - to go to the toilet
- senior citizen - old person
- sensitive - secret. A term applied to documents, often those that constitute evidence of wrong doing
- sexually explicit - pornographic
- sight-deprived - blind
- slack fill - corporate doubletalk for partially empty
- social disease - venereal disease
- source of information - informant or spy
- special - handicapped
- stonewall - to obstruct justice. To admit nothing, deny, cover up
- surreptitious entry - an illegal break-in
- surveillance - spying
- sweetbread - the inner organs of an animal when presented as human food
- swinging - promiscuity characterized by wife-swapping or group sex, etc.
- technical surveillance - wiretapping
- triage - the process of deciding whom to help and whom to ignore. The prioritizing of patients on the basis of probability of favorable outcomes
- washroom - toilet
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昨天Seminar上两个同学做了一个关于Entropy的报告，他们轮流解说不同的章节，讲到最后一节的时候，Ryan同学很清楚所有的技术难点都已经被阐述得很详细了，他要讲的内容只是一些简要的总结和展望，于是他自嘲说I'm feeling like beating a dead horse...大家哄然...
这就好比我们在电影里看到的情景，男主角已经九死一生把坏家伙打败了，男配角才跑过来对着”死马“拳打脚踢...感觉不是很有喜剧效果吗？
以下是wiki的解释：
Beating a dead horse is an idiom which means a particular request or line of conversation is already foreclosed, mooted, or otherwise resolved, and any attempt to continue it is futile.
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